Welcome New Child in Islam: The birth of a child is one of the most joyful events for family, friends and loved ones, since a little bundle of joy uplifting and bringing endless blessings and bliss to all those concerned.
However, this is also the time when parents are greatly responsible for complying with the Qur’an and Sunnah regulations in order to provide the blessings of Allah (SWT) for a little bundle of joy and the whole family.
Preparation for welcoming a child actually begins before birth. In Islam, a man or woman is encouraged to take on a “pious and practicing” partner to ensure that their attention remains focused on the hereafter and on strengthening and fostering their relationship with Allah (SWT). It is said that a person blessed by the pious Muslim as his life partner has the best in this world: You can read this 6 Benefits Of Marriage in Islam
Abdullah Ibn Amr (RA) said that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “The whole world is a provision, and the pious woman is the best object of benefit to the world. [Muslim]
In addition, a Muslim must marry Muslims, who are not only pious and practicing, but also loving and prolific.
Maqil ibn Yasar (RA) said that a man came to the Prophet (SAW) and said: I found a woman of high rank and beauty, but she does not bear children. Should I marry her? Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said: No. He came to him again, but He (SAW) forbade him. He came to him for the third time, and the Prophet (SAW) said: marry loving and very prolific women, because I shall outnumber the peoples by you. [Abi Dawud]
Actions during pregnancy and childbirth
There are no specific Qur’an duas or verses that could be read during pregnancy or childbirth, but in general any adhkaar, reading of the Quran, can be taken with abundant duas for the welfare of the mother and child. The mother must make an intention to devote the child to the service of the Deen of Allah (SWT) according to the wife of Imran
[Quran – 3:35] (Remember) when the wife of ‘Imrân said: “O my Lord! I have vowed to You what (the child that) is in my womb to be dedicated for Your services (free from all worldly work; to serve Your Place of worship), so accept this, from me. Verily, You are the All-Hearer, the All-Knowing.”
During the pangs of childbirth, some Ulamah recommended Surah Yasin (Quran’ chapter 36) and other adhkaars to relieve childbirth (as incantations), and it is not forbidden to repeat them for relief, comfort and consolation to the expectant mother.
The first cry of the child
As a rule, the baby will cry when it’s born, and this is due to the pricking of Shaytan. It is recommended to seek the protection of Allah (SWT) from Shaytan (the Accursed one) for a child:
Abu Hurayrah (RA) said: “The Prophet (saw) said:“ No child is born, besides this, Satan touches him when he is born, when he begins to cry loudly because of Satan’s touch, except Mary and her ”Son “Then Abu Hurayra said:” Recite this, if you wish: “And I seek refuge with You (Allah) for her and her descendants from Satan, the outcast.” (3.36) [Bukhari]
Calling adhan in the right ear of the child
It is from the sunnah that you hold the child and carefully call the adhan into the baby right ear.
Abu Raafi (RA) said: “I saw the Prophet (SAW) give adhan for a prayer in Hussein Ibn Ali (RA) after his mother Fatima (RA) gave birth to him”, [Tirmidi]
Iqamah in the child’s left ear
It is Mustahab (preferably) call Iqamah (for prayer) in the child’s left ear. Although the evidence for this action is weak, this is confirmed by the practice of the early Muslims, and al-Hafid ibn Qayim (HA) also quotes this practice in Tuhfat al-Mawdud bi-Ahkam al-Mawlud and lists 3 hadiths (of varying authenticity).
Tahneek for a child
This is from the Sunnah, then to soften a tiny slice of date or something sweet and slightly rub it in the child’s mouth.
Aisha (RA), the wife of the Apostle (SAW), said: “The babies were delivered to the Messenger of Allah (SAW), and he blessed them, and after they chewed (something, for example, dates or any other sweet thing) he rubbed there with their soft palates. They brought the child to him and poured water on him (over his garment), so he asked to bring water and sprinkle it, but he did not wash it. [Muslim]
Shaving the baby head on day 7th
Then it’s the sunnah to shaves the head of the child, and it is preferable to begin shaving from the right side.
Samurah ibn jundub said: The Prophet (SAW) said: Boy as a pledge for his Aqiqah, the sacrifice is made for him on the seventh day, his head is shaved and his name is given. [Abi Daud]
Anas ibn Malik (RA) reported that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) had come Mina; he went to Jamra and threw pebbles at it, after which he went to his dwelling in Mina and sacrificed an animal. Then he called the barber and, turning the right side to him, allowed him to shave him; after which he turned the left side. Then he gave (this hair) to people. [Muslim]
Giving the weight of the hair (in Silver) in Charity
Charity, equivalent to the child’s hair weight (in silver), should be distributed.
Abu Raafi (RA) reported: “When Faatima (RA) gave birth to Hassan (RA), she asked The Messenger of Allah (SAW): “Shouldn’t I sacrifice blood (as, aqeeqah ”) for my son? He answered: no! Just shave the hair his head and give it to the sadaqah (charity), equivalent to his weight in silver. She did it; and when al-Husayn was born, she did the same. “[Ahmed]
Give the child a good name
The child will be called and identified by his or her name not only in this life, but also in the day of resurrection, therefore it is very important that a good name be given to him:
Abu-Darda (RA) said that the Prophet (Sallaho Alaihe Wassallam) said: “On the Day of Resurrection you will be called by your names and father’s names, therefore give yourselves a good names. [Abi Daud]
Any name with a good meaning is acceptable, and it is not necessary to give the child an Arabic name, but for boys it is recommended to give the names of Allah (SWT) or the names of the prophets.
Ibn Umar (RA) reported that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: The names, the dearest to Allah, are “Abdullah” and “Abd al-Rahman”. (Muslim)
Abu Musa (RA) said: “I had a son, and I took him to the Prophet Muhammad (SAW), who named him Ibrahim, and put in his mouth the date fruit, which he chewed and invoked for Allah’s blessing upon him, and then returned him to me. He was the eldest son of Abu Musa. [Muslim]
Give a good name on the 7th day
A child can be named any day, but it is reported that Prophet Muhammad (SAW) named his grandchildren on the 7th day, so Muslims are advised to follow this noble practice, and also name their child on the seventh day.
It was reported that Aishah (RA) said: Messenger of Allah (SAW) made aqeeqah for Hassan and Hussain on the seventh day and gave them their names. [Ibn Hiban, Hakim]
Aqeeqah on the 7th day
Aqeeqah (sacrifice) is a noble Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) to eliminate the harm from the child.
Salman bin Amir (RA) reported that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “Qeeqah is prescribed for every child. Thus he shed blood on his behalf; and remove the harmful thing from him. [Tirmidhi]
Also, it’s the noble Sunnah to sacrifice 2 animals for a boy and one animal for a girl on the 7th day with the intention of Aqeeqah.
Aisha (RA) reported that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: (‘aqeeqah is) two [equivalent] sheep for a male child and one for a woman. [There is no harm, either male or female animals.] [Ahmed]
Feasting and distribution of Aqeeqah meat
A person is recommended to feast and share meat with family, friends and relatives, as well as to distribute it among others.
Aisha (RA) said about the aqeeqah meat: “It should be cut into pieces, then eaten and given to others. “[Ibn Abi Shaybah]
It was said that Ibn Seereen (RA) and Hassan al-Basri (RA) said: “Among them, aqeeqah was seen as a sacrifice; some will be eaten and some given to others.” [Ibn Abi Shaybah ]
It is from the noble sunna to circumcise the boy, but there is no fixed day or age for the procedure. Whenever the baby feels healthy enough, he should be circumcised.
Abu Hurayrah (RA) said: The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “Fitrah is five things, or five things are part of the fitrah: circumcision, shaving pubic hair, pulling out the armpit hair, trimming the nails and trimming the mustache.” [Bukhari]
Islamic upbringing and child care
Bringing a child to this world is a serious duty, and Islam attaches great importance and value to this noble cause. Parents are reminded to ensure that the upbringing of the child is appropriate for the residents of the Islamic Shariah, and warned of the consequences if they weaken in the performance of their duties and the fulfilling their responsibilities.
[Quran- 66: 6] O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allâh, but do that which they are commanded.
Abd-Allah (RA) said that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “Each of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The ruler who is responsible for the people is the shepherd and is responsible for them. The man is the shepherd of his household and is responsible for them. the woman is the shepherd of the husband’s house and the child and is responsible for them. A slave is the shepherd of the wealth of his master and is responsible for it. Each of you is a shepherd, and each of you is responsible for your flock. “[Bukhari]
Give good advice and council
Part of good parenting is giving good advice and guiding the child in the right direction. This practice is especially noted in the Quran from Luqman (the wise) to his son:
[Quran – 31:13] (Remember) when Luqman told his son, as he advised him; “O my son, Do not attribute partners to Allah. Indeed, attributing partners to Allah (Shirk) is a serious crime.
[Quran – 31:16] (Luqman continued talking to his son). “O my son, even if it were the weight of a mustard-seed, in a rock, or in the heavens, or on earth, God will bring it to light. God is Kind and Expert.
Investment in the future
Awards for good parenting are not limited to a sense of pride and joy, knowing that parents bring up a young man or woman and contribute to society, but these rewards will continue to roll even after the death of the parents.
Abu Hurayrah (RA) reported that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: When a person dies, his acts end, but three, recurring charity, or knowledge (which people) are beneficial, or a pious son who prays for him (for the deceased). [Muslim]
Spending on children (family) is a charity!
Parents are encouraged to spend on their families, and they are reminded of the huge rewards of these expenses in the future. The noble Sunnah teaches us to be kind to our children and families in order to spend on make them feel happy and to console them.
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Abu Masood al-Badri (RA): The Prophet (SAW) said: “And man’s spending on his family is a deed of charity. “[Bukhari]
Fair and equal treatment of children
Small children are sensitive, and Islam teaches that parents should be fair, just and fair to their children. Human feelings are sometimes uncontrollable, but tangible actions must be well thought out and fair treatment must be ensured for all children.
Amir (RA) reported that: “I heard An-Nu’man bin Bashir on the pulpit saying,“ My father He gave me a gift, but Amra bint Rawaha (my mother) said that she would not agree to this unless he made the Apostle of Allah witness it. So, my father went to the Apostle of Allah and said: “I gave a gift to my son from“ Amra bint Rawah ”, but she ordered me to make you a witness to this, Oh Apostle of Allah!” Apostle of Allah asked: ‘Have you given (the like of it) to everyone of your sons?’ ”He replied in the negative. The Apostle of Allah said: “Fear Allah and be just to your children.” Then my father came back and took his gift. “