I recently spoke with my brother with the intention of marrying, but after a while the treatment became sexual, and he talked about the sexual activities that he would perform on me. He ejaculates and I will have an orgasm. I know that this is wrong, and I should not talk to him, but I like it. Is it possible to allow phone sex between a husband and wife?
Answer: Wa alaykum assalam,
In the name of Allah, the Merciful and the Compassionate
Any intimate contact or conversation is unacceptable (haram) before marriage, as clearly established by the Quran, the Sunnah and the consensus of the learned community of the Messenger of Allah (may Allah bless him and welcome).
Not only is the actual intimate contact (for example, talking on the phone) unacceptable, but the means that lead to the beginning of such conversations will also be unacceptable because of the decidedly established principle that “the means for the unacceptable are in themselves unacceptable”. [Ibn Abd al-Salam, al-Qawa`id al-Kubra]
Thus, you must be very careful in such telephone conversations: they are absolutely unacceptable. It is allowed to talk with someone of the opposite sex who is not related if it is done within the framework of dignity and decency - within the limits of need or benefit.
When you slip, remember Allah and the Last Day: if you died at this very moment, is this the state in which you would like to die?
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